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Hello Fellow XJayDubbers ☕☕☕

As an excommunicated Jehovah’s Witness, I thought that I was completely over that feeling along with being shunned. Over the last month, I have run into Jehovah’s Witnesses who are supporting the decision by the Leadership to shun me as a ” spiritual leper” which means actively ignoring me. Some say that when a Jehovah’s Witness is excommunicated or “disfellowshipped”, that it feels like a death in the family. The Leadership of JW has convinced their followers that shunning is a loving practice, designed to “wake the person up “to their senses and come back to the organization. ( Watchtower, April 15, 2015) .

I went grocery shopping the other day and one particular brother saw me and looked as if he had seen a ghost. He hung his head low and quickly shuffled passed me and my family. I felt ashamed and hurt that day .I have decided that I no longer want to live my life in the shadows but rather would like to live in the fullness of day. I no longer want the anxiety that comes along with dealing with Jehovah’s Witnesses in any way.

For many years, while I have been away from the organization I have grappled deep depression, feelings of loneliness and unwantedness. Making new friends has been a challenge because I never had to make a friend considering that in the JW religion everyone is considered your friend just because they are also a Jehovah’s Witness. It has been very hard for me in this season while grieving so many losses ( finances, community, family, business contacts etc.) My own mother recently went back to the Jehovah’s Witness and lately, she looks torn as to how to deal with me. She believes that the organization speaks for God and that not speaking to me or even saying a greeting would be “disloyal to Jehovah”.

If you are experiencing shunning from your Jehovah’s witness family and friends, how have you coped?Do we Shun the shunners?

1 comment

  1. It is an awful teaching those people follow in their religious group which should be one of brotherly love.
    For sure you as an ex-JW should not fall in the trap like the JW members felt by following their organisation. You should stand above such dictatorial group and should be prepared always to look at all of them as brothers and sisters and show the agapè love.
    Shunning is an unchristian act and Jesus has given enough examples how to treat others and how not to throw stones to others.

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